one to one work

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• You go still, blank, or shut down under pressure — and you've started to suspect that isn't a personality trait, it's a nervous system pattern that formed a long time ago, before you had words for it.
• You carry guilt, shame, or a sense of responsibility that you can explain perfectly and still can't put down. It doesn't move no matter how many times you reason with it.
• Your trauma started early — before memory, before language, in the years your attachment system was forming — and you've noticed that approaches built for single-incident or adult-onset trauma don't quite reach it.
• You've done real work already. You understand your patterns. What you don't have yet is a body that believes what your mind already knows.
• You want to work with someone who works with the body directly — not just talk about the body, but actually track it, including through touch — because you've sensed that insight alone has a ceiling.
• You want your agency back. Not managed symptoms, not coping strategies layered on top of a frozen system — an actual felt sense of choice, of "I can," where there's been "I can't" or "I have to."

I want to be direct about this, because a wrong fit costs you time and money you don't need to spend: this work isn't built around managing chronic physical illness, and it isn't built around processing extensively through conversation. If what you're looking for is primarily a place to talk through what's happening in detail, or ongoing support for a diagnosed medical condition, there are excellent practitioners suited to exactly that — and this probably isn't the most effective use of your time or investment. What follows is for a different kind of work.

tracks activation and discharge in the body in real time. Instead of narrating what happened, we follow what's actually happening in your nervous system right now — the bracing, the held breath, the flicker of movement your body wants to complete but never got to. Freeze isn't something we talk you out of. It's something your body, with the right conditions, can finish and move through.

works directly with emotions, such as the guilt, shame, and identity distortions that early relational trauma leaves behind — the sense that you're too much, not enough, responsible for things that were never yours to carry. NARM doesn't treat these as flaws to correct. It reads them as intelligent adaptations that made sense at the time, and works with your capacity for agency and connection as it exists right now, rather than only excavating the past.

brings in relational, attuned touch as a form of co-regulation,  reaching developmental wounding, often preverbal, that conversation alone structurally can't access. It's not massage and it's not clinical. It's slow, consent-led contact used specifically to help your nervous system register safety at a level insight can't reach on its own.

It can also be used online thought intentional touch and self directed touch.

works at the level of stress organs (kidney adrenals, brainstem, HPA axis) and interoception, building capacity and titrated safety in the body itself, informed by Stephen Terrell's work on pacing and containment. Similar to Neuroaffective Touch, Transforming Touch works relationally and somatically, at the level of the physical body's own felt sense of safety and boundary. 

All four are held inside one relationship, not delivered as separate techniques switched between. Your agency is the point, not a side effect — every step, including whether and how touch is used in a given session, and which of these approaches a moment calls for, is yours to direct.

We begin by orienting and landing for a few minutes to actually arrive in your body and in the room, rather than launching straight into content. 

From there, the session follows what's live for you: it might be tracking a sensation, working with a specific memory or pattern at the pace your body can metabolise, or incorporating touch-based co-regulation where it's useful and wanted. 

Nothing is scripted in advance. Titration governs the whole process — small, tracked steps, never further or faster than your system can actually integrate.

Sessions run up to 60 minutes. Between sessions, you're not left to hold everything alone and a check-in or a question between appointments is part of how this work is held, not an extra.